Updated: Jan 3, 2019
Firstly, I will introduce us and our story to you. My name is Natasha and I am 25 years old (almost 26), I am a first-time mother to our little girl Quinn who is now 15months old and I also work full time. We have a busy life and it’s got even busier with having Quinn. I live with my partner James who I have been with since I was 17 years old, 8 and a half years together (9 years in July). James also works full time and he is a fabulous daddy to our little girl. We live in a little place called Burnley in Lancashire, about 40 minutes away from Manchester. We met at college through some old friends, we have been through a lot together, stayed together the whole time I moved away to University in Lincoln and when I moved back home that’s when we decided to move in together in 2014. We have lived in two different houses, but I love where we are now in such a nice peaceful area. I am a very outgoing person, love meeting new people and exploring different places, I like to be busy all the time and when I have nothing planned I get bored quite easily. When I fell pregnant it was a little bit of a shock because we had talked about having children and I had stopped taking the pill, but we weren’t expecting to happen when it did, although we were over the moon when we eventually told all our friends and family. We were a little impatient, well more me than James ha! We went for a private scan at 16 weeks to find out the gender at a place called Precious Glimpse in Burnley, at this scan we were told we were expecting a little girl which we were thrilled about.
So why I have decided now to start blogging – well when I was 20 weeks pregnant with Quinn at our scan we found out she had a limb deficiency which meant that when she was born she was born with her left lower limb missing. As many of you who have children will know when you go to your 20 week scan it is an exciting day as you usually get to find out if you are having a boy or a girl if you want to find out and they do a long checklist of things to make sure everything is ok with the baby. This scan was the hardest bit of the pregnancy for me – I was so shaken up didn’t know what to do with myself, I had never heard of anything like this in a baby in my life. Myself and James were very shocked and had to go home for a few days before we could ask any questions or anything to any doctors. We got an appointment through straight away for another examination scan where a consultant would look at the baby. By this point we had been on the internet like anybody would and had tried to find information what we had been told but I found it amazing there wasn’t one single thing I could find in the UK, every piece of information was in America. This made me concerned a little because I thought surely, she can’t be the only baby like this. I found plenty of information with regards to amputees and upper limb deficiencies but still to this day I haven’t yet found any child that has been born like Quinn was. We went for this extra scan and we had it confirmed that it was correct there was no lower limb on her left leg, still in shock this didn’t really do anything for us except confirm what we had been told previously, they checked everything else and confirmed that her leg was the only thing wrong with her physically.
After this appointment at our local hospital we had to be referred to a more specialist place that would take care of Quinn when she was born and help us know the options for her. We met with a lovely doctor during my pregnancy and he is the consultant who we still see regularly now with Quinn. He couldn’t really tell us much when we first met with him as we were unsure of how Quinn would be born whether it would be with a knee/without a knee (makes a big difference with regards to different prosthetic's and how they connect onto the leg.) He answered a few questions that we had and explained to us how prosthetic's work, the different options there are with prosthetic's – these are all things that both me and James didn’t know about but neither did our families. It was all a bit of a shock to all our family and friends, but they tried to stay strong for me & James.
This takes us to the end of the pregnancy and we would be delighted if you will continue to read my next blog which will be based around when Quinn was first born, and this will be posted this weekend – updates will be on our Instagram. If you have any questions please do post them below, I would love to answer them for you. We love reading any comments, so it would mean a great deal to us if you post in the comments.
Much love from Natasha, James & Quinn